Wednesday, March 16, 2011

Astrology and Marriage : Need a Change in our View

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Astrology has very important place in india. It is believed be sacred one and around 60% seek suggestions from astrologers before doing any important task. Astrology is a mathematical model to calculate predictions based on the birth time and date. It has some scientific eveidence. But all those are only true if see very good and experienced astrologer. Today in india only 5% of astrologers are well experienced. So we fall into the 95% category of less experienced. This can be proved as inexperienced easily, bcos if you see five astrologers, five will say five different views.This has severe impact in your life, especially decision making in marriage.


"Too much of anything is good for nothing", This inexperienced astrologers are going to make our india down and they are obstacles for our nations growth.

What makes me feel bad is, Many educated parents also think that only astrology matching is the first criteira. Astro matching is important in case of ill effects of venus, thats all. But these days, astrologers in Marriage matching, tell different opinion,

Eg: if you give a pair of horoscope to one astrologer, he will say it is good and other astrologer will say it is bad. If i say 2+2 = 4, It must be same in india Or In US, Or any where in world that is the perfect system .If everyone is saying different opinion, is that really a mathematical model???

If you give a horoscope pair for matching to 10 astrologers 6 out of 10 will say the correct results( if it is matching or not matching) So 6 are correct and 4 persons are fake astrologers. Use your brain, be logical, so take the decision what major astrologers say. Many marriages are stopped bcos one astrologer will say it is not good, so the foolish parents will aggree to that one astroologer and they do not consult others for second opinion also, and loose a good Bride/Groom for this son or daughter. So take this steps give as first approach.


First see the character of the boy or girl. Character is the prime thing, bcos character is life, astrology will not tell character.

Understand what is your son or daughters character/likes/dislikes/wishes etc, in this way you can get to know of your daughter and the boy will make a good pair.

Check if the boy/girl suits for your boy/girl in other aspects like beauty, look, personality etc. Bcos i have see a beautiful girl married to an ugly man only because of astro matching, But finally what the ugly man get is inferior complex, so problems starts in their life.

See if there is match in education, I have seen mant Post graduate girls marrying Diplomo boys, so there will be ego problem when marriage life starts. Do not entertain this.

See if there is match in job (A doctor if married to a doctor will make a good pair, But only we need to see if both boy and girl are ok to marry based on job)

See if the taste of both are same

See if the likes of both are same


Very important, Call the boy/girl, Talk to him personally, Get to know what is his attitude, what is his view over life, what is his view towards marraige, do he value marriage life, do he respect elders, do he respects tradition, is he gree for money, is he workaholic, is he capable to taking care of his wife better? Then ask your doughter/son to speak with whom you have selected, Then you will come to know all info, in this way if a boy has impressed you, Kindly do not give importance to Astrology, Just see if there is any ill effects of mars, Thats all, Don't entertain the astrologer more, Else he will make you to miss a golded Groom.


Finally what we need is our son/daughter to be happy after marriage, it can happen only if both have very good attitude fundamentally, so find a boy/girl that who have good attitude and character, Throw away the practice of first seeing astrology and filtering boys and girls based on that, bcos if you filter like this you have you compromise on getting good character boy and girl, if you still follow the astrology first others next, no issues, finally you have to accept what ever the character the boy is as his astrology is matching.


I also want to say, many parents if they do not like a boy/girl based on status, work family issues etc, they simply say astrology is not matching, Bcos no one can deny that. But they could have come into this conclusion without meeting the boy/girl personaly, they conclude this without knowing about the boys character, i feel those parents are the one who are greed for money, all they want is money and US settled boy with good job for heir daughter, i dont ask to you give your daughter to a boy who is good in character but do not have job, that is not my point.but what is wrong is seeing a boy with good salary, but lives in india, But he has good character. So make the habbit of seeing character first, Job, Salary is must, But make that as second and third choice, but make sure that is also matching according to your girl.


Every thing has good and bad, I do not blame astrology, But do not become addict of it.

My advice is do not miss a good groom/bride, Just for the reason of astrology.

Do not spoil your children life by name of astrology. I do not blame astrology, But too much of anything is good for nothing.

Life is to live, not to compromise.

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